Saturday, February 7, 2009

Older spouse

Older men or older women. Would you date them or even marry them?

I actually have quite a history with older women when I was in my twenties. If not for one of them, I would never have met my wife (this story I still have not told although I already have this blog for months). Older women with younger men are not that rare considering there are not many men to begin with in the world today. Don't you think that the population of male is fast eroding. The maxim either they are gay or taken lamented by single straight girls are truer by the day. 

So, you seen them everywhere. If you are single, sometimes you hated them for making the pool smaller for you. I know a few types of them. Those who are still young but dated or marry someone who is just 5 to 6 years older than them. Those who are still young but marry those who are 10 to 15 years older than them. Those who just turn legal then went on to marry someone waaaaaaaaayyyyyy older spouse. Then there are the separation between men and women.

Cradle snatcher. Razor blades. Lolita. Sex maniac to put it harshly. And many more. Some is just a name to label the act which people consider as not kosher even in this day and age. Even if the difference is just 2 years between them. For them, the norm is for the men to be a bit older say between 1 to 5 years and both are at the marriageable age of 20s or 30s. I know this one friend of mine who insist that the best difference in age is 7 years and then his son married someone 5 years his senior and his daughter went out with someone who just turn 18 while she is 25. Now they are engaged. 
How ironic is that?


  1. I have always had a bit of an Electra Complex though, so younger men have never held much attraction for me. 2 years younger, still OK... more than that... I find their immaturity tedious. :P

  2. my hubby is 15 yrs older than me and i personally found that his patience and wisdom keeps me grounded and calm all the time...
    i believe it goes back to what one really wants in life...i know i've had my prayers answered by God the day he came into my life..and i'm still thanking God everyday for him..

  3. I don't know if anybody will ever read this, but it feels good to be honest and let some stranger know.
    I'm attracted to older men, I always have been since I was a little girl. I've dated some guys that were only 1 year to 2 years younger than me, and we didn't really work out. To be honest, their immaturity drove me crazy. I wanted to learn everything I could about music, art, and philosophy, and all they could think about was sex and video games.

    I really do believe I'll one day fall in love with someone 20 years my senior, and I hope I won't lose him just because the social norm or my family say no to our love.